*This* Close to Your Next Mental Breakdown? Walk Away. [Seriously]

So, I’m one portfolio and two essay finals away from finishing my second to last semester of college.

Couple days ago, I was in the middle of writing the ump-teenth paper about old stories I didn’t care about anymore, and I was seriously starting to think my head was going to explode.

After I took a Naproxen and finished crying my face off for fifteen minutes, I posted this on Facebook:

All jokes aside, that is some real shit. More on breakdowns in a bit.

It’s now…

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On Needing, Reassurance, and Thirsting for Praise

“How artful can we get with praise?” John Wineland challenged the group of men who had gathered to understand how to interact better with women.

In this clip from one of his workshops, John and his co-teacher Justin Patrick Pierce lay down the principle that the Feminine grows through praise.

And I was like, wait–what?

(video contains brief adult language)

Let me swing back to this in a moment. First, a few thoughts that keep entering my airspace:

“If you had your life together, you would never need…

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Mother Love: This Is for You

This is for you.

You are the only one reading,

So, basically, we’re alone, and you can fall apart here if you need to.

This is for you.


You thought for sure you would be a mother.

And you had plenty of time, right?  Maybe you put it off by a few years, maybe five or ten, until the wrinkles started showing up, and you thought…oh, no.

Or maybe you played by the book. Married the right guy in the right place at the right time, with the right house…still, the empty house. Again. Your period started…

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Beauty and the Beast: When a Bad Fairy Does You Wrong

I had a fascinating conversation today.

I was hanging out with good friend, absurdist author, and real-life Muppet A.M. Hounchell. In the abrupt way that one meets a person while sitting with an absurdist, I met Tre, an insightful young man from Louisiana with the cool and depth of performing artist Donald Glover.

We three were talking about existential stuff that was far above our pay grade, and I happened to say,

Happiness is a choice.

This is a concept that has settled upon me like shellac on a table–it makes me shiny, and I…

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Goals: Turn Up the Heat

I wanted to get this extra little post out to you before the end of the week to clue you in on a tool that could make your days effortless, save you a lot of aggravation, and possibly heal your heart.

If you want less striving and more living, keep reading.

A few days ago, winter suddenly fell on Northeast Kansas. I’m still a full-time student, so I set my thermostat to the lowest temperature I could possibly stand to save a few bucks a month.

Yesterday, when I went out to the car to head to…

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One Small Decision That Will Change Your Entire Year

I called a friend at midnight to wish her a Happy New Year–she didn’t seem too happy.

The wine had worn off, and she had to work in the morning, so she was trying to get me off the phone, but I pressed her just a bit to make sure she was okay. True to form, she popped like a grape.

“I hate my job, I hate my life, and I don’t understand what I’m supposed to do.”

This friend is actually extremely talented and a very hard worker when she has a clear goal, so…

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French Women Hate Exercise: a Fresh Perspective on “Working” Out

KC.NET. FEATURE. French Women Hate.1. 2016

Privately, in my quest for a holistic lifestyle that will bring me health and less flab, I have secretly fallen in love with all things French.

First of all, j’adore the book French Women Don’t Get Fat: the Secret of Eating for Pleasure by Mireille Guiliano, which is arguably one of the sanest non-diet books ever written.

Second, I love the French concept of fashion, which follows the classical definition of modesty. This means that they dress with simplicity and grace,…

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Expect to Grow Away from Your Friends

KC.NET. FEATURE. Grow Away.2. 2016


We like to think that people we love will be in our lives forever.

Practically, we know this isn’t true.

Aside from the obvious facts that occasionally your best friend dies of cancer, or your favorite college friend gets married and starts a family while you stay single and work on your career, sometimes we expect that people we groove with now should stay our friends when WE begin to raise or vibration and improve on the inside.

These people aren’t just any friends, either.

These women have seen. you….

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